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Book Review: Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder
See larger image Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change (Paperback) By (author) Valerie Porr List Price: $24.95 USD New From: $15.02 In Stock Used from:...
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New Review of When Hope is Not Enough
Sometimes Love Hurts I’m currently reading the book ‘The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder’ by Randi Kreger. This is the first book I’ve read on the subject & I’m finding...
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First Search on IAAHF
I coined the phrase “It’s All About His/Her Feelings” (IAAHF) as a mentalization tool to understand the MOTIVATION behind much of the confusing behavior of those with BPD. Last week, I got the first...
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5th Anniversary of ATSTP List and Some Support for Non-BPDs
Today is the 5th anniversary of the Anything to Stop the Pain support list. After over 50,000 messages and 600+ members, it is still going strong. The ATSTP list is offered for free to non-BPDs. In...
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I-AM-MAD Skill makes it to Partners in Wellness Blog
In the post “When Your Partner Says They Are In Pain, Validate” Kate Theda of the “Partners in Wellness” blog specifically used my I-AM-MAD communication skill to teach her readers about validation....
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A Review of WHINE by someone with BPD
The other day I received a review on Amazon about my book When Hope is Not Enough from an individual who identified himself as a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Here’s the text of...
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Ask Bon: How do I balance validating somebody’s feelings with protecting...
Q: How do I balance validating somebody’s feelings with protecting myself or my children from emotional abuse? A: This is an excellent question and one that I have grappled with for years. My wife’s...
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Ask Bon: Why do you emphasize emotional validation so much?
Emotional Validation and why it is vital for an effective relationship with a borderline. Q: Why do you emphasize emotional validation so much? A: Emotional Validation is a very powerful skill, or set...
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A comment on change vs acceptance
An ATSTP list member responds to a question of whether another’s borderline wife will ever change because of emotional validation: I found validation isn’t as effective until the underlying agenda...
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Levels of Emotional Validation
Here is a nice article on the levels of emotional validation. I’ve written on this subject before, but this article/blog post offers a nice, fresh perspective. Understanding the Levels of Validation By...
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A new book: The power of validation
I read the Kindle version of the Power of Validation. It was very good. It is focused on parenting emotionally sensitive children. I recommend it to parents of emotionally sensitive children. See...
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Validation and Empowerment: The necessary balance for self help
The path to healing Steven Stosny has a (fairly) new post on “Validation and Empowerment” which covers emotional validation vs. the empowerment necessary to change for the better. I like Stony’s work...
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DBT Skill of the Day: IMPROVE the moment from the Distress Tolerance Module
Options to IMPROVE your current situation Many of us have distress and frustration in our lives. Your car keys are lost. You don’t have enough money to pay the bills. A friend rejects you when you ask...
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Levels of validation
Karyn Hall at the Emotionally Sensitive Person blog has another great post on the levels of emotional validation… Self-Validation: What Do You Do? By KARYN HALL, PHD Validation is like relationship...
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Long Presentation on DBT from Shari Manning
Shari Manning, the author of Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, presents family DBT skills. It’s long (2 hours+) but worth watching: See larger image Loving Someone with...
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Family Skills Training for Adolescents with Emotional Regulation Issues (BPD)
A video on family participation in skills training for adolescents with emotional regulation issues (BPD): Related posts: DBT for the Family? Emotional Regulation (or lack of) and you (the loved one)...
View Article20 ways you can emotionally invalidate someone
Emotional invalidation is particularly a problem when you’re dealing with an emotionally sensitive person, like someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I have a long list of emotionally...
View ArticleContempt and Marriage to someone with BPD
Contempt leads to divorce, because contempt is the opposite of respect. Contempt for a person with BPD’s behavior is, in essence, contempt for their emotions, because, until sorted out and separated, a...
View ArticleThe Surprising Key Element in Happy Couples – Emotional Intelligence
Bon: I like to call this emotional agility… The Surprising Key Element in Happy Couples Have you ever wondered if you and the guy you just started dating will make it long term? Or are you about to get...
View ArticleBe mindful of transitions with BPD
Transitions, especially as they relate to identity, can wreck havoc in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The last few months have been very difficult in my...
View ArticleVideo Explanation of I-AM-MAD Communication Skill
Explaining the I-AM-MAD communication skill by Bon Dobbs. A skill for interacting with emotionally sensitive people, like those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). No related posts.
View ArticleVideo: Understanding Validation in Families – Alan E. Fruzzetti, PhD
DBT and validation in families. Want to learn validation and other skills? Read “When Hope is Not Enough”. Related posts: Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.D. Recieves International Research Award Levels of...
View Article8 things you can do to emotionally validate someone
Here are some things you can do and say to emotionally validate someone. Emotional validation is a great tool for interacting with an emotionally sensitive person like someone with BPD. Listen and be...
View ArticleBeing Mindful of Emotion to Validate Self and Others
Kelly Koerner, PhD – Dialectical Behavior Therapy: The State of the Art and Science – April 2-3 Seattle, WA No related posts.
View Article17 things to never say to a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
“You’re not ill, you’re just being an attention-seeking arsehole.” 17 things to never say to a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder By Charlotte Dingle 2 March 2016 1. Nothing. Going to bed on an...
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